Nonyelum, the tenth child and only girl born to a subsistence farmer father in the village, was initially despised by her mother, who was anticipating the traditional honour usually given to women who were able to have birthed ten sons. At her naming ceremony, however, the Dibia (traditional Diviner) took a deep breath after carrying her in his arms and exclaimed, “This child has an impressive future and will be the saving grace of not just her family and community but will make an impact on the world.” How that would happen seemed far-fetched, especially since her parents were poor. Nonye’s parents emphasised the training and education of the boys, leaving Nonye to help their mother at home and attend church on Sundays. Nonye’s inquisitive and intelligent nature caught the attention of the Reverend Sisters at the village Catholic church, who decided to sponsor her education at the Catholic primary school. There, she earned the nickname “the goldfish.” She was so intelligent that she earned a scholarship covering both tuition and boarding fees at the High Brow Government School in the nearby city. Just before she left the village, in her bold and brazen manner, she walked up to her principal and demanded to know why she was referred to as the Goldfish.

Nonye possessed an insatiable curiosity, much like a goldfish exploring every nook and cranny of its tank. She was always eager to learn and discover new things, whether it was the intricate patterns of the stars in the night sky or the hidden secrets of the forest. Her eyes sparkled with wonder as she delved into books, asked endless questions, and embarked on tasks that took her beyond her comfort zone. She was resilient and adaptable to change, displaying an amiable disposition that worked well for her in all the relationships she forged…at school, work, church, socially, in family circles, etc. Like the goldfish, she was always identified…no hiding place! While in Secondary school, she honed her debating skills, athletic abilities, acting, etc. She was an “all-rounder” and represented her school in several capacities. Her Leadership capabilities were discovered and honed as she was the “Head Prefect” in her set, which set the tone for greater responsibilities in her work career.

It was not always rosy for Nonye as in her private life, she experienced challenges. Her marriage to Charles was fraught with frustration as she put in her best but that never seemed enough. Nevertheless, she faced life’s challenges with a positive outlook and an unwavering determination. When her first child died in mysterious circumstances and her husband walked out on her because he could not manage her success, Nonye’s resilience was evident in her ability to bounce back from setbacks, always ready to face whatever came her way with grace and tenacity. Admired and cherished by family members, both immediate and extended she displayed a unique ability to make others feel valued and cherished, spreading warmth and joy wherever she went.

Her gift for detail endeared her to so many as she never forgot a name or a face, and was wont to remember situations and circumstances, recalling the tiniest details about conversations, places, and experiences. Her friends often marveled at her ability to recall the lyrics of every song she had ever heard or the plots of books she had read years ago. Nonye’s keen memory and diligence allowed her to excel academically and, in her career, forming deep, meaningful connections with everyone she met.

Nonye’s unique attributes did not go unnoticed. A Goldfish, it is said, has no hiding place, and so she became a beacon of hope and inspiration for her community. Her curiosity led her to spearhead local educational programs, encouraging children to explore their passions and pursue knowledge with enthusiasm. Her resilience inspired others to face adversity with courage, knowing that they could overcome any obstacle. Nonye’s radiant energy brought people together, fostering a sense of unity and belonging – A Legacy of Goldfish Qualities.

As years passed, Nonye’s influence continued to grow. She became a beloved figure, known far and wide as the girl with goldfish qualities. Her story inspired countless individuals back in her village to embrace their unique attributes and celebrate the qualities that make them special. Her legacy lives on in the hearts and minds of those whose lives she had touched. Today, Nonye is the President of one of the United Nations bodies. She did not allow her humble beginnings to limit her vision and destiny.

Love

Havilah